How much of your leadership is actually just performance?
How many decisions are you making to prove you belong, instead of leading from the place where you already do?
After reclaiming your space in The Quiet Rebuild, this episode exposes the hidden pattern that keeps high-performers from trusting that space: the need for permission.
Shawn revisits a boardroom moment where self-doubt hijacked conviction, revealing how easily even seasoned leaders trade presence for approval.
You don’t need permission to lead the way you’re built to lead. You need to stop waiting for it.
This episode dismantles the “leadership audition” mindset and reframes authority as an internal claim, not an external validation.
If you’ve been over-explaining, apologizing, or seeking constant approval, this is your reminder: you’re already qualified.
In This Episode
Why “permission addiction” is the hidden burnout loop for leaders
The difference between leadership from proving vs. presence
How approval keeps moving the goalposts of worthiness
A practical voice exercise to reclaim authority without apology
✦ Reflection Prompts
Where am I still waiting for approval to act on what I already know?
What decision have I defended that didn’t need defending?
What would my leadership sound like if I stopped over-explaining?
✦ The Boost (Action Step)
Recall one decision you made recently and began justifying.
Write what it sounds like when you trust that decision. No defense.
Say it out loud. Let your nervous system feel what authority sounds like.
If you’re ready to trade performance for presence, book your No-Cost Identity Clarity Call, let’s name what’s still driving your need for permission.
✦ On the Next Episode
The Integrity Audit: When Your Life Doesn’t Match Your Values
Because once you stop performing, you start seeing the truth about what you’ve been tolerating.
✦ If Today’s Episode Sparked Something…
Share it with a leader who’s still proving instead of leading.
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✦ Engage With Me Online:
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✦ References & Influences
Gay Hendricks – The Big Leap on upper-limit identity traps.
Brené Brown – Daring Greatly on vulnerability and self-trust.
Steve Chandler – Time Warrior on reclaiming agency from approval.
Debbie Ford – The Dark Side of the Light Chasers on owning hidden power.
With strength & heart,
❤️🔥 Shawn Michael
