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Success Isn’t a Stretch Goal

It’s a Self-Betrayal (When Your Identity is Outdated)

You crushed the goal.

Everyone’s proud.

So why do you feel empty?

In today’s Daily Power Boost, we expose a hidden truth:

Most people don’t feel misaligned because they’re lazy—

They feel misaligned because they’ve outgrown the version of themselves who set the goal.

When your self-concept evolves but your success metrics don’t…

Every win feels like self-betrayal.

Inside this episode:

  • Why “success” often reflects an outdated identity

  • The hidden grief of outgrowing old dreams

  • How to redefine goals that align with your current self

✦ Reflection Prompts

  • Where did my current goals originate—from vision or from survival?

  • What am I chasing that I no longer truly want?

  • How do I define success now, from this version of me?

✦ Action Steps

  1. Audit Your Ambition

    1. Write one big goal down. Ask: Was this set from fear or alignment?

  2. Reclaim the Metric

    1. Reword the goal so it reflects an identity-based outcome:

    2. “Instead of chasing ____, I want to become the kind of person who ____.”

  3. Practice Identity Alignment

    1. Look in the mirror and say:

      1. “I no longer have to stretch to prove.

      2. I’m building from who I actually am now.”

✦ Bonus Resource

Book a No-cost Success Blockers Call

We’ll pinpoint the old identities and outdated goals still driving your actions—so you can lead from wholeness, not hunger.

✦ On the Next Episode

Tomorrow, we’re peeling back another performance mask with:

“Your Highest Self is Probably Lying to You”

(How the ‘aspirational self’ can become a mask that blocks real evolution)

Because when your growth becomes a persona, not a process—you stop transforming and start performing.

✦ If You Loved Today’s Episode…

Here’s how to move deeper:

  • Share this episode with someone who’s carrying too much out of pride or fear.

  • Subscribe to Daily Power Boost for daily shifts in how you think, lead, and live.

  • Join the R.E.A.L. Mastery™ Hub – The home of identity-based leadership and rhythm-based success. realmasteryhub.com

  • Want to be coached live? Beyond the Boost is coming, comment or message me if you want to be considered.

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References & Influences

  • Steve Andreas, Transforming Your Self — on self-concept and the impact of outdated internal identity.

  • Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap — on upper limit problems and hitting goals that don’t satisfy.

  • Michael Gervais, Finding Mastery Podcast — on internal alignment vs performance metrics.

  • Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection — on values-based living rather than perfectionistic goals.

  • Seth Godin, The Practice — on letting go of external outcomes in favor of identity-based doing.

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